My Husband's Date Without Me

My hubby is on a "man date" tonight.

In all honesty, it's humorous, but very significant at the same time.

First, the significant:

I cannot remember a night in the last year and a half or so since the affair when I have let him leave for such a long period of time without freaking out.

He has had the opportunity to do a couple things, like go to a movie alone or run to do shopping, but it's never been more than a couple hours. And even then, I have tracked him using the GPS on his phone (don't ask, but it's honestly not as stalkerish as it sounds). As I write this, he is still out and it's been over six hours. I never even thought twice about trusting him.

It's also significant because this is the first time since the affair that he has hung out with a male friend that I approve of. About a year ago, he went to hang out with a couple friends a couple times, but one of his "friends" in particular is not on my list of people that I like him with. This particular friend was there, during the affair, doing nothing short of patting Jose on the back for going through with it and getting away with it. Needless to say, I don't really care if he stops hanging around.

So, tonight has definately been eye opening that things are better between us, at least regarding the trust issues. Praise God!

Now, the humorous:

I am friends with the wife of the man that my husband is out with. Didja get that? Hehe. Here's a better understanding...Jose is on his "man" date with my friend, T's, husband. So, on Wednesday, I was on the phone with T and she was joking, "So, I heard your hubby and my hubby have a man date!" Jose overheard and started being all resistant to calling it a man date. Hence the joke began.

It gained momentum when Jose came home from work early and stated, "I'm picking Steve up at 5:30. Can I wash my car first?" Um. Okay. Hehe. Then, he primped and showered and got all dressed. I teased him that he was wearing his new jeans that make his butt look good for Steve. He told me to be quiet. Hehehe!

I did, however, leave Steve a note. Written on Jose's hand, it says, "Steve - Please do not hold my husbands hand on your man date. - Carla" and when Jose left, I called T (because we were already texting, but I got lazy) and she informed me that she was going to have Steve give Jose some Valentine's candy to start off their man date! Hahaha!

We are just awful to our husbands! They are such good guys to put up with our crap!

So, Jose, if you read this...or Steve, if you read this...I am glad that you two are friends. I am glad that I do not have to worry about who my husband is spending time with and that there is a great connection between two great guys. I hope you enjoyed your food court dinner, stupid movie (at least, it looks stupid to me), and your many hours shooting pool at the billards hall. You have my permission to have regular man dates from now on. (Plus, it helps that tomorrow, Jose's staying home with the kids so that I can go to a roller derby bout with T!)

Have a good weekend friends!